Hi there friends! Happy New Year! I have written this post in my head a dozen times and have even sat down to write it a few times but each time my mind took off in different directions. I am not sure why the 1st post of the new year is always so daunting to write but it is. On my run this morning I started listening to Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday podcast. I tuned into “8 Rules of Happiness” with guest Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project. Instantly, I felted connected to this interview so I thought it would be fun & therapeutic to start the new year with a list of things that will make me happier and more mindful, less stressed and more patient:).
My Happiness Project 2018…
My fears will drive me instead of hold me back. It was year 38 of my life, while on a morning run that I made a conscious choice to no longer let fear control my life. Since then I have faced many of my fears head on. Some were way harder than I thought and some didn’t go according to plan. But…I learned something valuable each time I pushed through. I learned I could count on myself more than I ever thought possible and that I was/am stronger than I give myself credit for. This is year I will push myself further. I will still maintain thoughtful balance but I will not let fear hold my hand and walk with me on this journey.
Ask for more help. Oh my gosh, this is SO hard! I have a wealth of wonderful family & friends that can help me become better at what I want to achieve, I just need to ask. In the past I felt like I didn’t want anyone to feel obligated, so I didn’t ask. But what I realized is that most often than not, people who care want to help.
Be me. For so long I hid in my shadows, never wanting to really be seen or stand out. Blogging dared me to come out of those shadows but it hasn’t always been easy. As I get older, I find freedom in letting go of what everyone wants me to be and just being who I really am. It’s so liberating!!
My story. I have been researching my genealogy & even had my DNA tested. Guess what, both sides of my family came from nothing. Poor is an understatement. They were all immigrants from Ireland and Great Britain and had an insane amount of courage to leave their life and country behind to come to America. They fought to survive and eventually as generations went on saw hope for a better life. I am grateful beyond words for ALL the sacrifices made so that I could be here today with a home, opportunity, rights, a voice that is valued and my family! With that I have uncovered truths I never knew. I will not shy away from the truth, instead I will walk bravely towards it.
Do More of What Makes Me Happy. Juggling a busy life you can forget what actually makes you happy. I will carve out more time for making art, walks on the beach just because, taking mid-day hikes with Denver, coffee with friends, time with my dad, games with my boys, dates with John, ancestory research, self reflective anything, documentaries and yes, Netflix! I am loving any historical drama lately!!
More time for personal connection. Running a business, a home and being a mother takes an incredible amount of time. Being good at these things takes even more time, time which sometimes I don’t feel like I have. It can be hard to find the time to make or maintain personal connections. Ones that encompass more than a like or comment on social media. Ones that maybe push me further to carve out a chunk of time to actually be with someone. Maybe in person or over the phone. There was a situation a few months back where we almost lost my dad. I am trying, even if I am busy, to make way more time for him during the week while the boys are at school. I actually started a journal of his life and am narrating it for him while I visit. It’s been such a blessing to get to know him in a whole new light.
Get Disconnected. I am better when I am not glued to my phone. I think I am pretty good about phone management but I can be better. Being in an industry, where it’s all about what can I share, all the time, can definitely take it’s toll. I would like to set more boundaries and leave the darn thing home more! Who’s with me?!!!
Declutter my mind, home & life. I realize I like to simplify, purge, give away, toss, make piles and create organization. I am better when there is some organization in my home. John unfortunately is a stuff magnet. Well no more, this year I am in charge and I am going to declutter our home and life. I have already began in all the kids spaces. Oh my gosh, it feels SO good! We have donated a ton already and more this year. The basement is on my list and it is packed. Wish me luck:).
Continue to give back. I began 2017 wanting to make a difference. I want to continue that in 2108.
Stay grateful and kind. Is there really any other way to be? So much of our daily household conversations revolve around this. I honestly believe with gratitude comes joy. And with kindness comes compassion, acceptance and love.
Embrace rest. I have seasons where I am more creative than others, I know that now. And guess what?! I am finally at a point in my life that I am at peace with it. It is the ebb and flow in life that rejuvenates and inspires us, allows us to be mindful of our place in the world, the people we love and feel connected to.
Do you have any New Year’s resolutions? Or any ideas of what will bring you more happiness in 2018? I would love to hear!!!
Have a very happy day!